Going to expand on this. What I see in the Mr Darcy character I can really relate to in terms of this is someone who is clearly an introvert, who is not comfortable in social situations and ends up giving off the wrong impression and offending people unintentionally due to clumsy use of language and misreading/not picking up on the social cues constantly going on around him. This leads to large parts of society and his acquaintance's having an incorrect view of what he is really like.
You could arguably say today that Mr Darcy is neurodivergent, but in this era the concept wouldn't have been understood both in the fictional setting or by Jane Austin as the writer.
He goes to these social events and does the things he do because they are non optional social conventions that he is expected to go to. But while at them, he refuses to join in with the activities like the dancing and conversing with those he doesn't know well. I'd ague because he knows he will deal with the situation badly and offend unintentionally, but by not taking part and being disengaged and dismissive, he offends anyway.
What I see in the story, is Mr Darcy being rejected by the woman he admires due to these misunderstandings caused by his lack of social skills.
He has to overcome his own obstacles in this regard, force himself out of the box, to put himself in uncomfortable situations, learn the social skills and do activities he isn't comfortable with, in order to show the real him to the woman he loves.
I know this isn't the point of the story and it's supposed to be about "pride", "prejudice", power dynamics etc. However, that is what I personally see and get out of the story and one I can really relate to, because it's what I had to do!
