Ok so this is going to be a bit of a weird post and I've been worried about putting this out there or ever asking anyone, so I just mask it and pretend along, but this might be an ok place to have a go based on my experience on here to date.....

I don't understand how people get so into music and the artists, it just doesn't seem to effect me in the same way it does everyone else. When I go to gigs and concerts, everyone else is bopping along and getting massively into it like they are in some sort of other level of connection to it all. For me I just stand there feeling nothing, there's no emotion or connection I get from it. I do enjoy going to them and seeing all the flashing lights, the performance as a whole and the sound in a general sense of some things over others but it just feels like everyone else is experiencing it differently. Probably why I enjoy the Eurovision song contest and the whole spectacle/visual performative nature of it all, even though everyone else says it's terrible. I'm wondering if this is some sort of Neurodivergent thing.

Through all my life, tons of people (at least what I believe I've observed anyway) base their whole personality, fashion, lifestyle etc around what sort of music genres, bands and songs that they like. People judge others by asking questions about what bands they like, and this then feeds into the impression they have of what sort of personality they might have and it acts as a starting talker point or something to bond over. I've basically just made things up to fit in with all of this so people can put you in their box of who they think you are.

It's not that I find music unpleasant. For a lot of things I do like the repetitive sound and the sound the lyrics make as a noise, but I don't really HEAR the words/their meaning as such or get any emotion out of them or anything at all, more just the sound being made. If it sounds pleasant and repetitive then it's quite nice to listen to. Think Classical music, like film scores, the sort of music you get in final Fantasy games, repetitive 80's synth and dance/electronic sort of stuff.

Everyone finds it really odd if you say your aren't really into music and there aren't any specific bands or artists you like, just random songs from basically anyone. This is unlikely being the music community, but maybe someone else will see it. Horror and Cats might be able to offer some insight maybe? does anyone else have this experience with music/songs or know anyone else that does or is it just me?